N4Chapter 25

Giving & Receiving (あげる, もらう, くれる)

Learning objectives

  • Learn to express giving something to someone using あげる.
  • Learn to express receiving something from someone using もらう.
  • Understand the special verb for someone giving to YOU using くれる.
  • Combine these with the て-form to express giving and receiving actions/favors.
N4 context

In English, the words “give” and “receive” are straightforward. But in Japanese, giving and receiving depend heavily on direction and perspective. The words change depending on whether an item (or favor) is moving away from the speaker, moving toward the speaker, or being received by the speaker. This trio of verbs—あげる, もらう, and くれる—is one of the most critical concepts for sounding natural in Japanese.

Anime pixel-art illustration of gift and favor exchanges with arrows showing giving outward, receiving, and giving inward.

1. Giving Outward: あげる (Ageru)

When the speaker (or someone close to the speaker) gives something to someone else, use あげる. The perspective is moving outward and away from you.

Particle Rule: [Giver] は [Receiver] に [Object] を あげる

Grammar文法
[A] は [B] に [Object] を あげる

means A gives [Object] to B (moving outward away from speaker).

Formation

Noun を あげる

Examples

私は友達にプレゼントをあげました。

watashi wa tomodachi ni purezento o agemashita.

I gave a present to my friend.

田中さんは鈴木さんに本をあげます。

Tanaka-san wa Suzuki-san ni hon o agemasu.

Mr. Tanaka will give a book to Mr. Suzuki.

母は花に水をあげました。

haha wa hana ni mizu o agemashita.

My mother watered the flowers (gave water to the flowers).

[!WARNING] You NEVER use あげる when someone gives something to YOU. It is strictly for outward giving.

2. Receiving: もらう (Morau)

When someone receives something from someone else, use もらう. The mental focus is on the receiver’s gratitude.

Particle Rule: [Receiver] は [Giver] に/から [Object] を もらう (You can use に or から interchangeably for the giver, though から is mandatory if the giver is an institution/organization like a school or company).

Grammar文法
[Receiver] は [Giver] に/から [Object] を もらう

means Receiver receives [Object] from Giver.

Formation

Noun を もらう

Examples

私は友達から花をもらいました。

watashi wa tomodachi kara hana o moraimashita.

I received flowers from my friend.

妹は母にお金をもらいます。

imouto wa haha ni okane o moraimasu.

My younger sister receives money from my mother.

誕生日に姉から辞書をもらいました。

tanjoubi ni ane kara jisho o moraimashita.

I received a dictionary from my older sister on my birthday.

3. Giving Inward (To Me): くれる (Kureru)

This is the tricky one! When someone gives something specifically to you (or your family/in-group), you MUST use くれる instead of あげる. The perspective is moving inward toward the speaker.

Particle Rule: [Giver] は 私に [Object] を くれる Often, the “私に” (to me) is omitted because くれる already heavily implies it.

Grammar文法
[Giver] は (私に) [Object] を くれる

means Giver gives [Object] to me (moving inward).

Formation

Noun を くれる

Examples

田中さんが（私に）時計をくれました。

Tanaka-san ga (watashi ni) tokei o kuremashita.

Mr. Tanaka gave me a watch.

先生が兄に辞書をくれました。

sensei ga ani ni jisho o kuremashita.

The teacher gave a dictionary to my older brother (in-group).

誕生日に父がカメラをくれました。

tanjoubi ni chichi ga kamera o kuremashita.

My father gave me a camera on my birthday.

Cultural Insight: The Culture of Gift Giving (贈答文化)

In Japan, gift-giving is a sophisticated social ritual. It’s not just about the object, but about the relationship.

  • Omiyage (お土産): When traveling, Japanese people almost always buy souvenirs (usually local snacks) to give to colleagues and family. It shows that you were thinking of them while away.
  • Temiyage (手土産): When visiting someone’s home, it is customary to bring a small gift.
  • Return Gifts (Okaeshi): When you receive a gift (like for a wedding or birth), it is common to give a return gift (Okaeshi) worth about half the value of the original gift.

Using くれる and もらう correctly expresses the appropriate level of gratitude and acknowledges the social bonds maintained by these exchanges.

4. Giving and Receiving Favors (て-form applied)

The true power of this trio is that they combine with the て-form of verbs. Instead of giving physical things, you are giving and receiving actions or favors.

  • 〜てあげる: I do a favor for someone else.
  • 〜てもらう: I receive the favor of someone doing something for me.
  • 〜てくれる: Someone does something for me.

私は友達の宿題を手伝ってあげました。

watashi wa tomodachi no shukudai o tetsudatte agemashita.

I helped my friend with their homework (I gave the favor of helping).

私は田中さんに日本語を教えてもらいました。

watashi wa Tanaka-san ni nihongo o oshiete moraimashita.

I had Mr. Tanaka teach me Japanese (I received the favor of him teaching).

田中さんが（私に）日本語を教えてくれました。

Tanaka-san ga (watashi ni) nihongo o oshiete kuremashita.

Mr. Tanaka taught me Japanese (He kindly gave the favor of teaching me).

Contextual Dialogues

Dialogue 1: Birthday Gifts (誕生日のプレゼント)

Talking About Birthday Gifts会話
Suzuki

田中さん、誕生日おめでとう。これはプレゼントです。

Tanaka-san, tanjoubi omedetou. Kore wa purezento desu.

Tanaka-san, happy birthday! This is a present for you.

Tanaka

ありがとう！まだ誰にもプレゼントをもらっていなかったから、とても嬉しいです。

Arigatou! Mada dare ni mo purezento o moratte inakatta kara, totemo ureshii desu.

Thank you! I am very happy because nobody else has given me anything yet.

Suzuki

本当ですか？家族は何もくれませんでしたか。

Hontou desu ka? Kazoku wa nanimo kuremasen deshita ka.

Really? Didn't your family give you anything?

Tanaka

あ、妹がケーキを作ってくれました！

A, imouto ga keeki o tsukutte kuremashita!

Ah, my younger sister made a cake for me!

Suzuki

いいですね。私も家族にケーキを作ってもらいたいです。

Ii desu ne. Watashi mo kazoku ni keeki o tsukutte moraitai desu.

That sounds nice. I also want my family to make me a cake.

Dialogue 2: Asking for a Favor (お願い)

Asking for Help会話
Miller

佐藤さん、この日本語が少し難しいです。手伝ってくれませんか。

Satou-san, kono nihongo ga sukoshi muzukashii desu. Tetsudatte kuremasen ka.

Sato, this Japanese is a bit difficult. Could you help me?

Sato

いいですよ。教えてあげます。

Ii desu yo. Oshiete agemasu.

Sure. I will teach you.

Miller

ありがとうございます！佐藤さんに教えてもらって、よかったです。

Arigatou gozaimasu! Satou-san ni oshiete moratte, yokatta desu.

Thank you! I'm glad I had you teach me.

Sato

いいえ。私の兄も、前によく手伝ってくれましたよ。

Iie. Watashi no ani mo, mae ni yoku tetsudatte kuremashita yo.

Don't mention it. My older brother also helped me often before.

Miller

優しいお兄さんですね。

Yasashii oniisan desu ne.

You have a kind brother.

Chapter Summary

Key takeawaysまとめ
  • 1あげる is used for giving outward, away from the speaker.
  • 2もらう is used to focus on the receiver getting something from a giver.
  • 3くれる is specifically used when someone gives something to YOU or your inner circle.
  • 4When combined with the て-form of verbs, they express the exchange of favors and actions instead of physical objects.
  • 5Japanese gift culture (Omiyage, Okaeshi) is deeply linked to these linguistic structures.

Knowledge Check

Test your understanding of directional giving and receiving!

Practice quiz
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Which word do you use if YOU give a present to your friend?

Applied review

Use what you learned

Focus: Giving and receiving. Try the task before revealing the model.

Guided practice練習

Produce the Japanese sentence, then compare it with the model answer.

  1. 1.Say “My friend helped me revise the report.”

Reading practice読解

Giving and receiving in context

N4 mini-reading

Target: 2 minutes
先生が推薦状を書いてくださったので、安心して応募できました。
  1. What favour did the teacher do?